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Saturday, December 31, 2011

At the Movies

I never go to the movies and seldom watch a movie on TV from beginning to end without falling asleep, but I have watched 3 full movies since we arrived in NZ – two at a cinema and 1 DVD.

The first one I saw was “The Help” – I read the book and loved it and tried to get to see the movie at home and then on the plane over, but to no avail. So when it was still on at the Rialto – classy cinema complex in central Tauranga – Pete and I went. It lived up to the book – really good actors who gave the story enough depth to make it believable. The next one – at the Rialto but on my own this time – was The First Grader. I had seen a trailer of it at the Intel conference in July, and then gone to Kenya and spent time in schools in September, and expected a feel-good movie with lots of familiar scenery. It was, and it wasn’t – the story behind the story of the struggles of a freedom fighter to fit in in later life was disturbing, as were the scenes of the Mau Mau uprising. But it ended happily – perhaps a bit too happily, but it would have been unsellable if it had ended realistically.

But the movie that had the most impact was “Boy” – a DVD about the life of a Maori boy on the East Coast of NZ in the 1980s. We saw the DVD with Nic and Ray, his parents and a friend on New Year’s Eve. Parts of it were hilarious – especially to those who have been teachers and have taught “those” kids – I think kids are universal and the child who wants to make him/herself with tall stories is one we’ve all taught. The 80’s names were great, too – the sisters called Dallas and Dynasty and the girlfriend called Chardonnay. The “tattoo” drawn on with a permanent marker, with arb things like “back” and “arm” gave us all a good chuckle. The blending of Michael Jackson’s Thriller dance with the Haka into one dance was hilarious. But the pathos of a story where the Gran is the only stable person, and when she goes away, the oldest child, Boy, having to take responsibility for his sibling and cousins, is too close for comfort. Watching the jailbird father behaving like a child – “shooting” the enemy with driftwood guns, lying to his children and trying to re-establish his youth through drinking and dagga after he is released from jail was just sad. Especially when you see the child wanting to believe him and be like him, but being cast off by him in the end.

We watched it to get a picture of Maori life in modern times, but in the end, it was a universal story – adults who let kids down, grannies who end up looking after all the kids, sad people with no future and no hope. Graham summed it all up when he said “What a sad movie” as it finished.

Monday, December 26, 2011

Cooking for Christmas

Let’s face it – we are a family of foodies. And never more so than at Christmas. Last Christmas, we took so many photos of the food that we forgot to keep a record of who was actually there. Sarah, Nic and I are all great cooks throughout the year, but at Christmas, somehow, there is a collective rush to produce all our favourite Christmas goodies.

This year, the rush started in November as I baked Christmas cookies, cheese biscuits, mince pies and shortbread all to our family recipes, so I could leave them for Sihle, Sarah, Riaan and Kev before we left for New Zealand. This despite the thermostat in my oven packing up, and having to do all the baking in a small oven which lives in the scullery – running down steps between rollings out to check that nothing was burning! I still had Christmas puddings from last year – and they do keep forever with the amount of brandy I put in them – so was able to leave one for Jen and one for Sarah. When I arrived in New Zealand, I was on mince pie detail, and made 3 or 4 batches before Christmas. The week before Christmas, I made cheese biscuits, shortbread and Christmas pud. I was going to skip the shortbread, but ended up making it after protests from Pete. And on Christmas Eve I glazed a huge ham AND a cooked and glazed a pickled pork – the closest Nic could find to a gammon in New Zealand. Nic maintains it’s not Christmas unless you have leftover gammon to eat on fresh white bread on Boxing day. And then for days after.

I thought about family traditions and food that we like to prepare. Many of my recipes come from generations back. My Shortbread biscuit and cheese biscuit recipes come from my paternal grandmother. The Christmas pudding recipe comes from an old Royal baking powder recipe book and was made by my maternal grandmother. The shortbread recipe comes down from the Lyon/Mann family somewhere – how far back to Scottish family I don’t know. I don’t make Christmas cake often, but we have the family recipe – with my Mom’s note – George V’s favourite cake! – written above it. My mince pie pastry comes from an old WI recipe book – and no doubt, will go down in history as Granny Deb’s recipe.

The gammon and bean salad that we have most years are relatively recent additions to our family Christmas meals. As a child, we had roast chicken (a delicacy) and hot veggies, cooked by the domestic help, who were then allowed to have a half day after they had washed up. We gradually moved to a cold meal (more suitable in our summer Christmas climate) and pickled pork was cooked and decorated with cherries and pineapple and later replaced by gammon, and we introduced salads – some more successful than others! The bean salad has lasted – copper penny (a gross carrot salad) and green cucumber mousse were thankfully discarded! Baby potatoes from the garden, boiled with a few sprigs of mint, were always my dad’s aim, but weren’t always ready by Christmas Day.

But in my family, it was the puddings that really counted. Christmas pudding – stirred by all the family and visitors and boiled for 6 hours in the heat of summer, and then reheated for an hour with the coins jingling in the bottom of the pan. Even non-raisin eaters like my nieces and nephew had pudding so they could get the money. This was always my Mom’s preserve, and even when she got too senile to manage the measuring and tying of the greaseproof paper lids on the pans, the pretence that it was her work was surreptitiously preserved. I nearly burned the house down a couple of years ago, when I went to sleep and the pots boiled dry in the middle of the night! Pete woke to smoke and a glowing pot on the stove – and a melted plastic toaster which had been next to the stove.

Fruit salad was a big hit when we were kids, and my Aunty Hazel’s fruit salad was the best. Sadly, there was always so much of it and so little fridge space that it would always ferment before we could enjoy it the next day. Nic has added Pavlova to the pudding repertoire, and this year, we picked the strawberries to pile on top of it.

The most enduring favourite, though, has to be “our” trifle. Mom’s generation invented it, I think - or it may even have been her mother's family. I can remember making it with my cousins when we were all young teenagers, and getting drunk on the sherry we poured in so liberally. Jen and all my cousins know the recipe – and I know some of them make it each Christmas. And certainly my children and Jen’s know how to make it. Nic doesn’t even like trifle, but if trifle is to be made, it has to be “ours.” For me, it is Christmas food – and having a bowl full for breakfast on Boxing Day means that tradition has been continued.

A foodie family indeed.

The “Lyon” trifle
1 or 2 packets of Boudoir biscuits (ladyfingers if you aren’t in South Africa)
Youngberry jam
Sweet sherry
Home made custard
Whipped cream
Sandwich the biscuits with the jam and layer them in a bowl – the number of biscuits depends on the size of the dish. Nowadays, I use a rectangular one, but as kids, we used a round bowl and cut the biscuits to fit.
Sprinkle liberally with sweet sherry and leave to stand for a couple of hours.
Make a thickish pouring custard – enough to cover the biscuit layer adequately.
Pour the custard over the biscuits and leave in the fridge until just before serving.
Whip cream and cover the top of the trifle. Decorate with cherries and almonds.

Saturday, December 10, 2011

140 years of marriage

Today is our 35th wedding anniversary and we have just spent a week with good friends, Richard and Vanessa, who will celebrate their 35th wedding anniversary on Wednesday. As we sat at dinner the other evening, we decided that our 70 combined years of marriage were pretty unique nowadays. A little while later, Richard spoke of 140 years of marriage, and after a bit of discusiion, we decided that it was a more accurate way of describing our experiences of marrigae - each of us has experienced the past 35 years in a different way. So together, we represented 140 years of being married.

We talked about whether any of us had ever thought about getting out of marriage - and for all of us, it has been a lifetime commitment, even though all of us have gone through some tough times. Marriage has involved work - and all 4 of us had the Marriage Encounter experience to give us tools to deal with it. Another way of strengthening our marriages was meeting regularly with other married couples and talking honestly about what makes our marriages tick and what are the hardest things about being married. And being part of a church community has also been a way of building our marriages.

I feel so blessed to have so many years of marriage to look back on, and look forward to many more years.

Happy anniversary, Pete, Richard and Vanessa. 140 good years between us all.

Thursday, December 8, 2011

A Rotorua Ramble

The 1st December is the day the trout stream open for fishing - at least in the N Island - so it was not really surprising that we set out for a stream in the Rotorua area on the 1st.

The road to Rotorua is beautiful - first through farmlands - fat sheep and alpacas, black and white cows in lush green grass, the strange, tall flat hedges that serve as wind breaks for the kiwi fruit orchards. Then the scenery becomes wilder as you pass through the gorges on the way to the rivers, and finally, back to thw flat plains as you reach the lake.

It was a patchy day weatherwise, with cloud, sun and wind playing tag with one another. We walked around the Kuirau thermal park - I am fascinated by boiling mud, and then visited the Museum. It was built originally as a bath house and there are remnants of the crazy "electric" baths, the equipment and the pipes. We also watched a movie - complete with moving seats and bangs - about the volcano that destryed the pink and white terraces.

After checking into our motel we spent a couple of hours out - Pete fished and I read. We'd hoped to go to the Hamurana River mouth on the lakew but it had got so windy, we decided to go to the Ngongatha stream inland. Lots of cars at all the Anglers' Access points - all the locals were out fishing on this first day of the open season. A dad arrived with his blonde haired daughter - about 3 or 4 years old - and they set off down tghe strwam together. Unfortunately, the fish also seemd to know it was 1 December and had hidden - pete didn't see a single fish.

The next morning was mizzly - perfect fishing weather - but not not great for sightseeing, so I joined Pete on the Ngongatha road while he fished. This time he saw fish, but none of them took his fly or paid any attention to him.

The way home was raining but interesting as we took the long road home. At lunch time we stopped at Lake Rotiti and had a meal with the Swan family - Dad - Cob, Mom - Hen, and 4 children - Cygnets 1, 2 3 and 4. Cob had very few manners - waddling up to the car and banging on the window, demanding food. Hen was little more polite and protective of her babies - shooing the greedy seagulls away with a flick of her head.

We drove through Whakathane and Te Puke on the way home. A pleasant little ramble.

Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Tauranga on its feet

When Ray moved back to new Zealand, he worked in a project called Tauranga on its feet - getting people in the city to walk. Well, we're trying hard to do a walk every day, and very pleasant it is.

I enjoy our walks at home – as we set off each day, we decide which side of the hill we are going up – everything is up from our house!, whether we are going through the Park, if we’re going to do the extra loop to add another ½ km, or if we’re going to go somewhere where Lindt can get a bit of a run.
But walking in Tauranga has brought a new interest to walking. Firstly, we are walking without Lindt – which feels a bit strange. And then we are walking in a completely different area.

We’ve had a couple of interesting walks around Greerton, the suburb in which Nic and Ray live. Lots of the roads are dead ends, so we find ourselves retracing our steps quite a lot as we try to find our way around. There is a delightful shopping area called Greerton Village quite close and we have walked around it and had coffee at some of the delightful coffee shops. Coffee and breakfast are expensive but lunch is quite reasonable. Houses are mostly timber clad and some are on very small pieces of land, but the roses everywhere are amazingly beautiful. Obviously this is real rose climate. All along the road are vans selling avos, strawberries, asparagus and oranges – very reasonable at this time of the year.

We’ve also had a walk around the Mount with Nic – and this time we had to stop for her. Yes, she is pregnant, but I am fitter than last time and it wasn’t such an effort for me. I really want to go up the Mount one of these days. Nic’s midwife has said she needs to walk a lot to get Ricky to turn from breech, so we’ll try the Mount one of these days.

There are also a lot of “reserves” - green belts in amongst the houses. Just opposite Nic and Ray’s house is the Argyll reserve – a long, narrow and steep piece of land between Argyll Road and the light Industrial area on the bottom of the ridge. It is beautiful as it opens up into green lawns amongst big trees and tree ferns, but definitely a daytime walk.

A walk through the Fraser Road reserve started in Yatton Park – another daytime place to be – apparently it is a bit scary at night as it is right adjacent to the “Vale” – a rough part of town. It was a great walk – through the park, down some stairs to the river and then a walk along the banks of the cove to the Fraser Cove shopping Centre. The tide was in and we waded through some water that had overflowed onto the path on our way down, but on the way back, the tide was out and the path was dry. We met an old man on his mobility scooter taking his elderly and portly dog for a walk along the path – he tells me he brings the dog down every day for a walk. After a cup of coffee at Fraser Cove we walked back a different way and went along the edges of beautiful lush gardens stretching right down to the reserve – and not a wall, piece of razor wire or electric fence in sight.

Today we walked around the Estuary – the tide was in and it was a beautiful day – a cool breeze but mostly sunny. We started with a walk through the bush, then along a boardwalk though the mudflats, then along the deeper edge of the estuary on a path alongside the road. Lots of birds – white faced herons wading in the long grasses, quizzy pukekos – a native bird that is as stupid as a guinea fowl, but very pretty, Egyptian geese, cormorants ad lots of lbj’s. Walking back along the road we had a brilliant view of the Mount across the water. Nic tells us that when the next tsunami hits, it will go over the Mount and roar up the Estuary – but today, with a blue sky and gentle breeze, it all seems so unlikely, even though it’s really more about “when” than “if.” The GPS turned itself off, so there are conflicting opinions about how long the walk was – but my legs tell me it was at least 10kms!

Walks still to come are Papamoa Hills, McLaren Falls and the Karangahake Gorge. Lots to look forward to. Ray would be proud.

Sunday, November 27, 2011

A year closer to 60

Another birthday – not a “big” one but a special one as it is the first time for 5 years since I woke up on my birthday in the same house as Nicky. I’m 58 today – 2 years off 60 and a year retired.
Maybe retiring before 60 makes it feel different, but for me, it’s been a great adventure. There’s been no regret that I have stopped working formally – except on pay day when there is no salary! – and no feeling that I am on the downhill slope to old age. In fact, I feel younger, more alive and more energetic than I did a year ago.

As I had a little snooze after lunch today – after a 5 km walk and a Turkish takeaway for lunch – I thought about how different my birthdays usually have been – working till late in the afternoon, rushing home to smile and pretend I really do want to go out to dinner, but meanwhile thinking of all the reports I should be working on, and then falling into bed exhausted so I can get up early and be at school before anyone else in the morning in order to get some work done before the hurly-burly of the day.

I love being a pensioner; having a pensioners’ card so we can get money off things – not that I’ve actually used it; going for walks in the morning after the traffic has gone; travelling out of school holidays; shopping on weekday mornings; watching the cooking channel while I have lunch; eating breakfast and lunch on the verandah; reading the newspaper or not with my morning coffee– because there is time to do it later if I feel like it; checking facebook when I want to and not when there is a 5 minute gap – yes, there are a lot of advantages to being older.

I don’t know how I had time to work – my life is busy and fulfilled. What a pity people ever have to work – young people could really do with the joy of the kind of life we have right now. But maybe we only appreciate it because we haven’t had it before.

I look forward to another special year – roll on 59!

Thursday, November 24, 2011

The Main Attraction

The curtain has gone up on the Main Attraction. Since the last time we were in New Zealand, two years ago, we have talked about how we would spend 3 months here in the first year we were retired. Well, it’s November and we are here. Better late than never!

I wrote on Facebook the other night that this trip was the central plan in our first year of freedom, and that everything else we’ve done has been a dress rehearsal for this moment. And now it’s here. We had to change plans a few times and dates changed even after we’d booked when we realised that Ricky was imminent, but it’s always been there – a great adventure.

The week before we left was busy – trying to get everything finished – my UKZN marks, a Reading to Learn Strategic Planning day the day before we left, Pete’s Planned Giving envelopes for Church, buying cat food, baking for Sarah and Sihle, having our family round for brunch, preparing for a farewell dinner with our House Group, taking Lindt to the vet, making sure clothes were ready to pack and picking up all the things people wanted to send to friends and relations – and the new baby-to-be! So there wasn’t really time to think – but the day before we left on our 10.00pm flight was loooong. And so was the flight – better than Cathay Pacific to Hong Kong last time, but still long.

We got into Auckland at 5 in the morning, got through customs without a murmur – no one wanted to even look in our bags – unlike OR Tambo where they searched our hand baggage and Australia where we were “quarantined” while we were in transit – I felt as though I was in Border Patrol. Then we walked out of the arrivals hall and there were Nic and Ray. I’ve known she was pregnant – I’ve seen her tummy growing on Facebook and even had a close up look on Skype, and seen the scans and videos – but nothing prepared me for the rush of emotion as I saw my little girl with her big(ish) tummy and knew that her little girl, Ricky, is growing and developing and being loved as she makes her way out into the big world. I felt so protective – of Nic and Ric (do you think the name will stick?) and incredibly happy to be with this special little family.

But as for adventure? We love Nic and Ray’s new home and all they have done in the house and garden, we love Mo, their cat who has so much character, and it was great to see Rita and Graham last night for dinner, but it doesn’t feel like an adventure. It feels like home. Driving into town and walking up to Greerton village we felt as though we were on very familiar turf and as though we belong.

I suppose what I’m saying is - Home is where the heart is – and my heart has pieces of it all over the place – Pietermaritzburg, Pretoria, Tauranga – where my precious kids are. And so we are at home here with Nic, Ray, Mo and Ricky, just as we are with Sarah, Riaan, Kev and Harriet, and with Sihle, Lindt, Jingle and Bell. Lucky parents to have such an amazing family.

So the main attraction may end up being a very familiar reality show and not a great adventure. It may not be “Grand ….” or “Extreme …..” or “Desperate ….” But that doesn’t matter – because it will be filled with all the love we have.

Sunday, November 13, 2011

The end of year one

A week to go and we will be almost on the plane to New Zealand. We fly out at 22:00 next Monday. The 3 months in New Zealand was always the focal point of this first year of retirement – decided on as soon as we realised Nic and Ray were going to be staying there for a while. We’ve planned and thought and longed for it – changed dates and times, changed the reasons for going, changed our mind about clothes, presents and suitcases - and at last it’s upon us.

Originally, I wanted to get on the plane the first day of February but as Nic and Ray only left here mid-January, that seemed a bit crazy. Then we thought of April, but other things came up. Then we didn’t want to spend winter there. Then we hoped, and hoped there would be a grandchild to go and welcome. And now that’s exactly what we will be doing – but having some time to spend with Nic and Ray for the last time as parents, not grandparents, before little Ric makes her appearance.

So, what has this year brought for us? For Pete, it’s been a year of total unwinding. He has lost weight, got fit, bought new clothes, relaxed, painted and renovated the house, taken photos, watched sport on TV and done a fair bit of 4x4 travelling to satisfy his adventurous heart. He’s had a bit of fishing – with Kevin and with his brother, Neil, and also on his own. He looks 20 years younger! I keep saying that all he needs is a little blond hair colour and an ear-ring and he will look like “a footballer” like Becks. He has not worked – he’s just said “no” when people have tried to get him to locum. He said he would take a “gap year” and he has. The other day, he went to Pretoria to a Pharmacy Council meeting and I hardly recognised him in “work” clothes.

We’ve done some travelling – a short trip via Clarens to Gauteng, a trip around the outside of Lesotho – our 11 Passes trip – and our month at the Wild Coast. And some trips to Pretoria to look after Kev while Sarah and Riaan went off on some travels. We’ve also done a lot of walking – taking Lindt on short and long walks, and some great walks down on the Wild Coast – on the cliffs and on the beach.

And my time? – well, my plan was to change my style of work, but not stop working and I’ve done just that. Two not so successful ventures – a term at St Nics co-ordinating the 21st birthday term – not a good idea to go back – and a couple of months working as a consultant for Schoolnet. That also ended badly – I should never have accepted the job knowing my other commitments and the personality clashes I knew I would have with a member of the organisation. But I did it, and I’m glad of the experience – and have also realised I want to work in my own time and my own schedule – not being at the beck and call of others.

Then there have been the wonderfully successful things – working with Reading to Learn and understanding and enjoying the methodology more and more, travelling to Kenya to train there, doing some training here and planning for an exciting future. It’s been great to work with Mike Hart and to realise we can work over cappuccinos at Essence with our computers! Working at UKZN with the PGCE students was also great – I loved the full time students and going to Umngazi with 12 of them was an amazing experience. I have 12 new members of my family!

I’ve given a lot more time to my personal wellbeing – losing 20 kgs and exercising regularly has been great – I have cut my blood pressure and anti-depressant medication by half. I think I could drop the anti-depressants altogether, but my doctor thinks I should keep on with them until I have stopped dieting. Everyone says I look younger – I certainly feel younger!

What have I missed? Seeing special friends regularly – both the friends I worked with and our House Group friends – we all seem to have been away such a lot this year. Getting to St Matthews every Sunday – we have missed a lot of church. Teaching kids – but not the marking, the Admin or the fights!

So – the trip is here and the year is ending. The best part – spending time with my beloved – getting to fall in love all over again. Roll on the next 20-30-40 years of retirement. We’re baby boomers – we are making our retirement count!

Sunday, October 30, 2011

When your friends disappear ....

I looked at my blog today - in May I wrote 22 posts. In October I have only written 4! Time to get my act together and do some writing!

We always read that it was unwise to move away from all your friends when you retired. Stay where you know people and are known, the retirement books say. But they don't tell you what to do when your friends leave and move on to somewhere new.

Our housegroup is about to be decimated. Of the 4 couples in the group, 2 are moving to retirement villages in the New Year. We started the group as a Lent course about 5 years ago. We knew Rod and Fi and John and Ju well, but Chris and Deanna were new to Pmb and we loved getting to know them. originally, Pam and Jenny were part of the group, but when Jenny got too busy and Pam had to move to Frail Care after a fall, we became the 4 "un-Silver Circle" couples who had such fun together.

We went to shows at the Hex, had dinners when Chris threatened to cook "bunny", invited other families from the Parish to join us for meals, watched movies, shared books, shared our travel photos, brought gifts for each other after our trips, and even did some Bible Study.

The group has been a wonderful support as we've all struggled with problems with our families, lost dear ones and faced new phases of our lives. They are my closest friends. And now John and Ju leave to live in Botha's Hill and Chris and Deanna move to Pennington. We are going to miss them so much.

Thank goodness Rod and Fi are still here - if they move, we might as well pack up and go too! I suggested to Fi that we take up a hobby to meet new friends - paintball, perhaps? A new phase awaits us - God, give us grace to accept the new things you are asking us to do.

Friday, October 28, 2011

Over 50s are more responsible?

Insurance for over 50’s -Get lower premiums because you are grouped with other responsible people.

So says the advert on the side of my facebook page. It starts me thinking. Grouped with – other responsible people? Who are they talking about? Maybe people who are 51 or 53 or even 55. But not the groups of friends I have who are 60 or more. They are NOT the most responsible people I know. Far from it!

It really is strange how young people are considered to be frivolous and irresponsible, while older people are meant to be serious and responsible. Teenagers, yes . And Varsity students – yes. Being a student is the time of your life when you have it all. You are treated as an adult in most ways – drive, go where you like, with whom you like, doing what you like, but no one expects you to behave like an adult – responsible, good with money, sensible, etc.

But once you start work it’s downhill all the way into being responsible and sensible. You have to first get a job, then keep it, then make enough money to buy a house so you have to stay in the boring job, then save for the things you need – or buy on credit so you have to work even harder to keep up all the payments, and that’s even before you have children – bottomless pits of needing cricket bats, dentists visits and clothes. Apart from love and support.

I think my most responsible years were in my 30s and 40s - building a career, taking myself so seriously. It was a serious time in the life of our country – when there was so much wrong and so little we could do about it. I’m sure it shaped my earnestness and responsibility. Joining organisations like Koinonia, earnestly working with training groups like TREE, being involved in the church and Marriage Encounter, teaching at St Nicholas in the first days of democracy, all helped make me responsible and grown up. Not that any of the things were bad, and not that we didn’t have fun, but we were very responsible.

Lots changed for me when I moved into my 50s.

Studying for my BEd Honours in the Psychology department at UKZN, with fellow students who had been in school and undergrad classes with my kids, made me feel younger, not older and more earnest. Sharing lipgloss and designer water was a very emancipating thing!

Working with my good friend Mike Ford and starting the High School at St Nics was fun and energising. Mike and I had an amazing synergy in the early days and sparked new ideas off each other on a daily basis. The amount of caffeine in the endless cups of coffee and slabs of chocolate might have had something to do with that.

Having my good friend Tracy Bell, with her alternative ideas of ‘church” as our Priest and School Chaplain took some of the “earnestness” and “do-doodery’ out of church and made it more real and vital for me.

We joined a Lent Course group that turned into a housegroup – with old friends, Rod and Fi Bulman and John and Julienne Booyens and new friends Chris and Deanna Russell – and along with the Bible study came a “party” mentality – visits to the HEX for supper theatres, “langtafel” lunches, Christmas in July, sending silly e-mails back and forth to make the others laugh – good times – and not ‘responsible’ times.

As our girls grew and became adults and married, we didn’t find ourselves feeling older, but have enjoyed spending time with our grown up children on a more equal footing. Hanging out with Sarah and Riaan in Pretoria is always a joy, and our trip around the South Island with Nic and Ray 2 years ago was the nicest holiday I have ever had.

Inviting Sihle into our home when his dad died, and having a teenage son after 2 girls was also something that made us less serious. Sihle is a joy and a treasure, and has always been part of our lives since he was a little boy, so having him live with us wasn’t taking on another responsibility, but a natural progression. His sense of humour – so like Joel’s – delights me daily.

And grandchildren – aging? Not in our book! Kev has kept us young – full of life and energy and funny things he says and does – we love the young man he is growing up into. And we look forward to loving Ricky just as much.

So being retired has meant freedom and lack of responsibility. We play more, travel more, drink more, exercise more, stay in bed late because we feel like it more – in fact, this is the first time since I was a student that I have lived such a hedonistic lifestyle. And it is great!

Tuesday, October 25, 2011

No work, no pay

Last night the charming young lady who did our census asked me about my income – and it hit me – I can call myself self-employed, I can call myself retired, but actually, at the moment I am unemployed – and it scares the living daylights out of me.

There has only been a brief time since I was 21 when I haven’t had a regular income – and that was when I was having my babies. The years I spent at home after Nicky was born were filled with small business attempts – teaching stretch knit sewing, doing some work for my ex-English lecturer, selling chocolate moulds, making and selling Christmas decorations and goodies – and I always knew they were temporary stopgaps until I went back to work. So not having ‘money of my own” coming in is a bit scary.

This year has been filled with employment opportunities – 3 months at St Nics running the 21st birthday celebrations (not my finest hour); lecturing part time to PGCE students at UKZN; doing a little work for WITS; working with Reading to Learn; training and assessing for Schoolnet and – what I had hoped to be my main new career but it just didn’t work out for me – the Online Training Facilitator for Schoolnet for a few months. My friend Fiona has taken it over – and she will be brilliant – but there is a sadness that it all blew up and just didn’t work, leaving me feeling demoralised and a bit useless, while at the same time, relieved to be out of it.

I’ve loved the work with the PGCE students – it is stimulating and fun and I’ve made friends for life – I hope I can get my contract renewed next year; I have loved R2L and really hope we can make it a paying proposition next year; I loved the training for Schoolnet – one of my favourite organisations, even though there are people in it that I’d rather not have to associate with; I’ve missed teaching at St Nics and the WITS work was interesting if poorly (and tardily) paid.

But I realise now that it is the end of the year, and apart from a few bits and pieces still to finish, I don’t have a job and I don’t have money coming in. And it is terrifying! I don’t have a pension like Pete’s, and the small payouts from provident funds and schemes aren’t an income. I’ve got plenty to live on, but I feel that my independence has been compromised – I am not earning a regular income, so am I still worthwhile?

That’s something I’m going to have to work on in the years to come, because I have enjoyed the freedom too much to go back to a full time job. So my New Year resolution (a few months early) is to work out what I really want and then make it happen. If it means launching out on my own and writing for money; or training – quite what or who, I don’t know; or finding part time teaching that brings in a regular income but means I have to give up my flexibility, I will have to work it out for myself. No-one else will do that – it’s up to me. Meantime – it’s NO WORK, NO PAY! for the next 4 months in New Zealand, and I’m determined to enjoy it. The sponger is about to move in, Nic and Ray – you have been warned!

Monday, October 24, 2011

SHOWTIME

Each year Domaine’s Dance Show is a bit of a challenge – new dances to do, costumes to make, kids to organise, coping with the changes in the programme, organising kids and transport, working on the narration …. And so it goes on.
This year was no exception – but for a totally different reason. I really thought it would be easier – the kids weren’t my responsibility, the costumes had all been made by a dressmaker, we only had one dance and it was simpler than ever, and I didn’t have to go to school.
But Nature put a spanner in the works – the week before the show I woke up with a sore throat – and a huge head cold developed. I don’t think it was flu, but a week of feeling really bad made the week before the show a nightmare of a different kind.
I’d offered to get tap shoes for the 22 kids – so the week was spent getting shoes I’d found on Gumtree, at a second hand shop and finally buying some from a supplier. It was also spent buying wigs, cigarette holders, fascinators, sailor suits, chess pieces – all my costumes and the props I needed for my narration. But I missed the first 2 rehearsals, spending the time lying down whenever I could, high on Colcaps and lemon/honey/brandy and blowing my nose endlessly. Wednesday I had to go to the technical rehearsal and Thursday, the dress rehearsal. Pete went fishing for the weekend, so Sihle was my main support – and he was great. The show seemed messy, scrappy and seen through a blur of feeling full of cold. I really wondered if we would pull it off.
And then Friday came and a lot of rest and a hip flask of brandy got me onto the stage with Phillipe – a fox stole – complete with head and legs - lent by Vivienne. And then I realised the truth of “the show must go on.’ One of the boys said to me “Your funny voice matches your funny character.” He was right. The “old lady” I played was a bit eccentric, and I had fun playing her and holding the bits of the show together. The best fun was that I was on the stage for almost all the dances and so saw the dancers from close up.
The little ones are always delightful – stunning costumes, hair specially curled, makeup and shiny little lips – and practically no steps at all. The odd pointing of toes and a little skip, then a wave to mommy and off the stage.
The Hip Hop group who were involved in Chess with the St Nics kids were great. There were twins – maybe 6 or 7 – with their hair in tight little pigtails – who concentrated so hard and watched Tarryn and Frank all the time, mirroring their movements just a hair-breadth behind.
Some of the bigger girls have real talent – and some have enthusiasm – and boobs too floppy for their tutus. It is always a pleasure to watch those who are really good.
The adult taps always bring the house alive – and their “Time Warp” was great. But Lance in a red and black corset, fishnets, high heel shoes and a long blonde wig stole the show.
Our one, simple dance is always great fun and we get lots of applause – three old ladies showing off on a big stage always gets the audience going!
Saturday went even better – I didn’t think I’d survive baking, going to a launch of my students’ network getting everything ready for Patronal festival on the Sunday and getting to the show – but it was great.
Will I do it again – I think so. Domaine’s shows are always so over the top and such fun.

Friday, October 7, 2011

A lazy week

This has been one of those lazy weeks – well, on and off – when I didn’t feel like doing anything.

I love Bruno Mars’ Lazy Song

Today I don't feel like doing anything
I just wanna lay in my bed
Don't feel like picking up my phone
So leave a message at the tone
'Cause today I swear I'm not doing anything


That’s just how I felt this week!
It rained a couple of days and Pete and Kev went off fishing. Our lounge suite came back from the upholsterers and it is so snuggly and comfortable that I just sat in it and admired the newly sanded floor and the newly painted soft green walls and dreamed about the cushions and curtains I was going to buy.

I had lots to do – assessments, preparations for my part-time PGCE course, work for AKF, Reading to Learn work, unpacking the boxes of stuff we took out of the lounge when the floors were sanded, preparing for the dance show next weekend.

I should have done some exercise – taken Lindt for a walk, gone to the gym, done some Zumba or Wii Fit.

But instead I downloaded some books for my Kindle – 4 of them, actually – and sat with my feet on the ottoman and a cup of tea at my side and read and watched TV and did nothing. Every time I had to go out, I felt a bit grumpy and resentful – especially on Tuesday when I had to rush around at the University, lugging my laptop and seeming to achieve nothing! I was so glad when service preparation was relegated to an e-mail, and didn’t even want to stay after my dance class and chat – I just wanted to get back and sit – and do nothing.

Today I had to pay – all my PGCE part-timers’ work came in and I had to assess all of it – about 80 e-mails today!; I went and looked for material for curtains and rugs; did the Schoolnet magazine (my last); messaged my full time students; sorted out props and costumes for the show; found some extra pairs of tap shoes and prepared for a braai with my boys – Pete, Kev and Sihle.

But I’ve enjoyed my lazy week. Back to the hard work next week – and looking forward to it.

Saturday, September 24, 2011

Happily Married Week

On Thursday Dezlin posted a Happily Married Week post on her facebook profile, and I reposted it onto mine. At the same time I changed my profile pic to one of Pete and me on our wedding day.

So what does 40 years of knowing each other and 35 years of being married mean to me?

I still remember being at Leticia's house on a day in early December just after turning 18. It was the day of the matric dance and I was on my way to the hairdresser to have my long, straight hair teased and curled into what would now be called an "upstyle." Tee phoned and Pete came across the road to meet me. I don't think there were any violins and shooting stars, but by the end of that evening, I felt that this shy young man was really very nice. And the next few months and years confirmed this. I wasn't good at long distance relationships, but we kept up a correspondence and then when he came home to do his internship in Pmb in my last year at College, we started a real relationship. Every time I drive along Oribi Road in November, I think of the long evening walks we took at the end of my academic year - just seeing jacarandas under streetlights evokes love and romance.

Once I started teaching in Highflats while Pete was working in Port Shepstone, we only saw each other once in 2 weeks, but we knew it wasn't long and we would be married and live together all the time. The wedding was fairytale - after a hectic build up, I floated through the day - and then through the night on the bottle of champagne my dad had hidden in the car for us as we left for our honeymoon. That much alcohol on an empty tummy was hectic!

Settling down to married life wasn't difficult - a new house, a new job, new friends - and always Pete to come home to. Sarah arrived when we had been married nearly three years and we had moved to Dundee, and Nicky 2 years later when we had moved to Pmb and the house in Dennis Road that we lived in for 14 years. There were tough times - moving too often, Pete having to spend a lot of time away, no job and never quite enough money, babies that cried. But there were great times too - getting involved at St Matthew's, Marriage Encounter, friendships that endure, and our wonderful kids - the light of both our lives.

When Kev was born 14 years ago, we did a lot of evaluating of our lives, and have spent the time since then building and consolidating the importance of our family. It's grown - first Kev, then Riaan and Ray, then Sihle and now Ricky. We've mellowed and I think we've become less selfish - realising that there's room for much more love if you let it grow. Our home is open to our kids' friends and relations, to our friends and to others who need the space to be in a family.

This new phase of our lives - retirement - is like being newlyweds again, without all the anxieties of youth. We can travel, walk, read, renovate the house, work together and separately, just "be" - and it is great. I have to echo Maurice Chevaliers words "I'm glad I'm not young any more," but there is a part of me that is just as young as it ever was. Seeing Pete at the airport last week when he came to fetch me made me realise how much I love him. Being with him makes my heart feel light. Living with him makes my day bright. Loving him makes me complete.

I feel so sad for people who have lost their beloved partners, and those whose marriages have ended in divorce. I am so grateful that Pete and I have the chance to grow old together, to have memories that go back 2/3 of our lives, that we know each other better than we know anyone else except ourselves.

Happily Married Week - yes. But we also have Happily Married Life. Praise God.

Thursday, September 22, 2011

Going Back

Today I was invited to go back to St Nicholas to do the talk at the weekly Staff devotions. Yesterday as we drove past the school, I said to Pete how remote the whole school life felt to me – both past and present. But I was so pleased when Kamal phoned on Monday and asked me to share something with the staff.

I spent a lot of time this week thinking what to share. I often ended up doing chapel when there was no-one else rostered and it was always easy because I had a fund of ideas from services and bible studies. But this time, I (gulp!) haven’t been to church since July sometime – probably early July – so other peoples’ ideas were a bit thin on the ground. And most of the books I have been reading about re-incarnation of pets and the way they wait for you on the rainbow Bridge, Bill Bryson’s A short History of just about everything, and a book about the ’94 elections would be sure to offend someone.

I looked at something from BRF on Light and darkness, but it seemed a bit preachy. Then I decided to something for World Rhino Day, and spent hours (till midnight and I had to wake up at 6.30!!) collecting readings, prayers and stories for Chapel.

Then, when I woke up this morning, I knew I needed to share some of my journey through other educational institutions over the last 3 months with the teachers who were still in the place I had been last year. I started with the article from today’s Witness, the looked at the conference at St John’s with the wireless network and twitter feed; the Botswana conference with teachers from African countries which had just introduced free, compulsory educations and now had classes of 200 to one teacher – and the Americans who had come to solve all Africa’s problems; the textbook workshop with Lawrence telling us about the Frances Cornford poem he does with his students in Langa; the time on the Wild Coast, with its laughs, its shocks, its sadnesses and its triumphs; the schools in Nairobi and the trainers in Mombasa and all I learnt from David and the group; and ended with what I heard and thought at the RASA conference in Cape Town.

There was no spirituality in it – except that we are responsible for the children – as Graeme Bloch said – we need to give them a reason to shoot for the stars. I’m going to write an article about it – but it just happened today.

How people received it is neither here nor there – but the greeting I received from staff and friends and children was overwhelming. I was afraid I might be knocked down in the enthusiasm of the hugs! Annette met me at the car – it was good to see her looking so much better; Cecilia, who brought me some tea, wiped away tears of happiness; Sue and Caro who keep me so entertained with their antics on facebook came running out to catch me before I escaped; Oom Piet beamed as he opened the gate for me; I waved and hugged and felt enfolded in love. My life at St Nics has not disappeared – I am remembered and loved, and it’s a good feeling.

There are a lot of things I miss – people who share their lives with me, kids who are just so affectionate and affirming, friends – young and old, new and long-standing – who are part of the fabric of my life; being part of the planning of a dynamic organisation; some of the mental stimulation; planning new programmes to work on in classrooms; and most of all, teaching. I LOVE TEACHING. I want to do some more of it.

But there are parts of me that wonder whether I actually ever did work there – or was it all some sort of fantasy world. And some of it I don’t miss at all – hassling over finances, reports, computer malfunction, interruptions, getting up early and getting home late, fighting amongst staff and always having to be in the middle. I don’t miss any of that. I don’t want to go back.

But the sad feeling of being Julius Caesar – “The evil men do lives after them; the good is oft interred with their bones” after my very unhappy and frustrating first term back at St Nics – is dissipating. I’m sure that certain people still don’t want me on the campus, but most do. I’m remembering happy times and how much I owe to what I learnt there, and how much of what I learnt, I take with me into new ventures.

So going back was good this time. Thank you, Kamal, for officially asking me so I knew I wasn’t an intruder. I can go back happily again.

Monday, September 19, 2011

CAPS and MISHAPS

I’ve spent the weekend at a RASA (Reading Association of South Africa) conference. An experience which I could have done without in some ways after our 2 weeks in Kenya, but in other ways, an ideal follow-on from the Mombasa workshops.

CAPS(Curriculum and Assessment Policy Statement) is the new curriculum which is being implemented in great haste by the Department as a knee-jerk reaction to SAs appalling reading stats. The ideal is a good one – back to basics, more training and structure for teachers, giving schools good textbooks. But the reality is that the CAPS have been put together so quickly that they are full of errors. The training is likely to be as poor as it was in the previous curricula (4 in 15 years). Teachers are just as likely to be confused and unmotivated.

We looked at some of the statistics of reading competency in SA schools – it was sobering hearing. A talk by the Vice-Chancellor of UCT was amazing. He posed some really challenging questions.

He asked us, “IS THE FUTURE OF EDUCATION TRAPPED IN THE PAST?” He went on to say that many young South Africans are ANTI-INTELLECTUAL. Their models are anti-school, anti-learning, anti-critical thinking – he even named Julius Malema as being a shocking role model for young people. He feels that learners see education as punishment, an imposition, an affliction on them. It is counter to their culture.

He went on to say, despite how the world perceives South Africa and what we see ourselves, a lot has changed in 20 years. Many people are more affluent than they were – especially previously disadvantaged people. But, he goes on to ask - “When are the economic benefits going to be translated into improved educational achievement?” Parents drive Mercs, children have Blackberrys, but they don’t acknowledge that education is more important than affluence. The material is more important than the intellectual.
He went on to say that we need to take a stand against the grip of our social structure and try to make some changes. He had no solutions – but he challenged my thinking and got me to stop looking at the negatives and think about how to change.

The conference was full of other interesting topics. In one session we discussed how, although English is meant to be the Language of Learning and Teaching, most teachers in High Schools teach in the dominant mother-tongue because they think the kids won’t be able to understand, but the kids are aspiring to read in English. We also heard that many teachers teach the version of the learner that they see in front of them – but it is not always the real person. Teachers need to be given training and self-confidence so that they can teach children the way that they need to.

Most of the speakers were passionate about what they do, about the kids they teach. Some had brilliant ideas, others shared what they had done.

I had some of my ideas confirmed, I learnt some new things, I met some interesting people, I saw some awesome books.
I’m tired but I’m glad I came. CAPS

A sad goodbye

The training ends and we bid a sad farewell to the many new friends and colleagues we have met in Mombasa.

The Aga Khan Foundation has as its aim improving life for the poor and marginalised all over the world, and here we have been working with people from East Africa – Uganda and Kenya. AKF started the Reading to Learn in some of the very poor rural schools about 4 years ago in Kenya and Uganda, and in some of the Nairobi slums schools this year, and are ready to take it further up the school, as well as trying to get the MoE interested in spreading it throughout the schools where it will make the most difference. So our training has been with trainers, advisors and MoE officials as well as two very special teaches – Aisha and Chale.
We deal with reading and writing of factual texts and reading of Maths – it is the first time I have worked with the Maths and it is fascinating. Then David gives us a chance to teach the story genre and Mike and I have a wonderful time letting our creative juices flow! We write an amazing joint story with the trainers and then they set out to write their own stories in groups – what a lot of fun.

The final session is a bit o.t.t and overwhelming. We are praised, thanked and sung to. We are told a story of how a good thing is ever enough, and that people will always scramble for good food. The story ends by saying, “We are hungry in Kenya for good education – please come back and give us some more.” We have so much to share but we have learnt so much from this group. They have such a “can-do” attitude. They keep asking for help in problems like 200 kids to one teacher in some Ugandan schools, now that Education is free – but at the same time, they have already identified so many of their own solutions. They amaze and awe me. I want to shake some of the whiney teachers I know who complain and say things are impossible and never look for their own solutions, but expect them to be handed to them on a plate. I meet people at this workshop whose positive attitude and determination will stay with me always – Aisha who teaches in a poor school with a head teacher who doesn’t really support the programme because he doesn’t understand it, but who perseveres in spite of everything; Atresh and Amina who are the Project co-ordinators in Kenya and Uganda respectively, and who make sure that the teachers are supported and given the help they need; Semmy who is as bright as a button and always has a quick answer; Yusuf who can be relied on to give a well thought out suggestion or who can see potential pitfalls, but is not daunted by them; Mole from Uganda who knows the curriculum backwards and sees all the ways to circumvent it to make sure children learn in spite of it; Rosemary who works for an NGO but is still close to the teachers on the ground – the list could go on and on. And then there are the project managers – Nafisa from Nairobi and Cathy from Geneva, who join us for dinner on the Tuesday night. Nafisa grew up in the Soviet Union in Turkmenistan and she tells us how it was to discover as a teenager what being Muslim and Ismaeli really means. They are both great women and the AKF is lucky to have them on their staff.

The training finished, Mike and David set off on yet another visit for David to the Antique store – it is his 6th visit and today he actually buys something. Some of it will be sent by ship and other pieces need to be packed into his case with the many kikoyis and kangas he has bought. It must have been worth the owner’s while, because he takes Mike and David to visit the school in which he has an interest – a combined madressa and Kenya curriculum, and then he insists on fetching us and driving us to the Tamarind restaurant in Nyali for dinner. He even offers to fetch us after dinner and take us home to the hotel, even though he lives 30km up the coast. We hit a monumental traffic jam on the way, and Yusuf happily drives his vehicle up onto the pavement so he can get to an alternative route – not that it helps much. But it gives us one of our biggest laughs. We have seen tuk-tuks painted with flames like Hells Angels bikes, with crazy names, with two drivers on a single seat (we went in one!) and even decorated with flashing fairy lights. But the one we see in the traffic jam takes the cake – it has one passenger and 5 goats in it! One hang out through the side awning, we see different legs appearing and disappearing through slits in the side and back of the covering, and we see the owner perched on the bar at the side, trying to keep his goats in. This vehicle vies with the bread-delivery bicycle for the most innovative use of a vehicle that I have seen.

The Tamarind is tranquil and up-market – and costs us 10000KS for the three of us! Luckily, AKF will re-imburse us. We sit on a wonderful verandah overlooking the estuary, with the lights of the island opposite us, and the lights of small fishing boats going up and down. We see a fire flare up on the beach opposite, and the sound of the meuzzins is muted and musical over the water. Then back to the Hotel for a last night, and a last dop of Mike’s whiskey (he needs to finish it so he doesn’t have to pack it – I just leave my left over wine for the cleaner) before an early start to Nairobi.

David is on a later flight, so he goes to visit a rural school while we meet with Nafisa, Cathy and Everlyn about the next steps with the project. We try to get to a Masai market, but there isn’t one on Thursdays, so we go to a shopping centre and to the City Market where we have to beat off touts and drive hard bargains so we aren’t ripped off. Then off to bed ready for a 4.00am start.

This has been an exhausting but an amazing experience. I see a new way forward for our own R2L training and look forward to working on implementing it. Back to cold Cape Town tomorrow for the RASA conference and then home! East, West, home is still best!

Tuesday, September 13, 2011

Some time out

On Saturday we finish training a bit early and with Sunday off, we have a bit off time off to explore, rest and enjoy Mombasa a bit. We find out about a Swahili food restaurant which is close enough to walk to. I spend some time having a rest in the amazing heat, and catching up the sleep that I missed the night before when my aircon didn’t work and there was such loud music that I couldn’t have the windows open. Then at 6, we set off to find the restaurant.

In the lift, David meets a local man who comes to the gym at the hotel, and he suggests some Indian restaurants - one is closer than the one in Old Town we have thought of going to, so we decide to find it. We go a bit far down the road and ask directions at the Casablanca Club, where Mike is propositioned by a girl sitting at the bar. When David and I walk in behind him, she quickly gets engrossed in her cell phone.
We eventually find the Shennai restaurant – a North Indian restaurant which only opens at 7, but which allows us in a bit early, anyway. It is opulent and traditional – sitars and shennais (Indian flutes) on the walls amongst gilded pictures and brassware. The waiters are dressed in traditional garb – baggy pants and coloured hats and sashes. The service is amazing – our hot plates are placed in front of us between two spoons, napkins are opened for us and spread on our laps. And then there is the food – I have the best biryani I have ever tasted – chicken with saffron and fried onions – not just yellow rice with chicken, but hidden nuggets of saffron and chicken in fragrant basmati rice. It is food to dream about. And so is the saffron and cardamom infused kulfi to follow the meal.

We walk back to the hotel past a community centre where a charity event is happening – families, children, young men and women all lining up to buy tickets for 50KS to listen to music, dance and play games. As we walk back on the other side of the road, the bhangra type music is reverberating in the air.

Sunday is a day off and we spend the day catching up with some of the things we have wanted to do. David and I set off after breakfast to go and find the Fresh Produce market and the Spice shops. It is still the original market built by the British in 1914 and is crowded with exotic foods, fruit, veggies, spices – the array is huge! I am buying spices when a tout tries to muscle in, but David chases him off and we go into the street behind and find a spice shop where we buy some of the things we want – and some we didn’t know we were going to buy, like tamarind fruits. The smell in the shop is exotic and heady – I almost bought things I can easily buy at the Curry Pot, under the influence of spice scents! David buys a handful of vanilla pods – probably 30 of them for 400KS – about R40.

Then we set off for the Antique shop we visited two days before – Yusuf, the owner, will open for David at 10. A tout called Ali insists on accompanying us, although we know where we are going. He asks where we are from, and then makes a profound statement ;-) – He points to me and says “South Africa – Thabo Mbeki!” and points to David and says “Australia – kangaroo!” David and I can hardly walk we are laughing so much. Ali follows us all the way, insisting that there is no charge – he just wants us to be happy, but in the end, we end up paying him to go away.

We wait for the shop to open and make the acquaintance of 3 little girls who are going to throw the family rubbish away – probably in the sea – and share our strange chillied nuts with them and take their pictures. They come back later with some strange sweets they have made which they want me to buy. David and Yusuf, the shop owner, start looking at what David wants to buy – in fact he goes back again in the afternoon, trying to decide what to buy and ship. Some of the antiques in the shop are run-of-the-mill junk shop stuff– and then there is a huge collection of African statues and art – bisexual gods, masks, head rests and implements. I get bored and decide to go back to the hotel, and Yusuf, the owner, gives me a lift back.

I get back to find Mike has miscalculated the time of the rugby, so we watch the first springbok game. When I say to our driver, Jali, on Monday that I have watched the game, he assumes it is soccer – doesn’t even know that the World Cup is on.

We take a tuk-tuk to Nyali on the North side of the island – we cross the bridge and go to the beach at the Reef Hotel. We walk right though the hotel and down onto the most amazing white sand beach, with blue water sparkling just beyond it. Mike swims in the sea and says it is beautiful – sparkling and clean. On the beach there is a plethora of traders selling everything from scarves to massages. Everyone has a cousin who will organise a safari for you. Just off shore are dugouts and sailing boats, ready to take tourists on trips, but there don’t seem to be any takers. Along the beach, there is a camel which people are having rides on. I take a picture to add to my collection of animals on the beach – cows on the Wild Coast and camels in Mombasa.

We have lunch at the Reef Hotel – the food is a bit pedestrian but it is pleasant out in the garden and we watch money walking past us in the form of very pink and burnt European tourists, many wearing costumes people their size should not be wearing. One very white young man is being rubbed all over with sunburn lotion by a statuesque young black woman. We negotiate a better price for the Tuk-tuk and get back to the hotel in time for a rest before dinner.

For dinner we go back to Nyali in a much slower and more cautious tuk-tuk, and eat at a Bollywood vegetarian restaurant at the Cinemax centre. The food is nicer than the hotel but after the dinner at the Shennai, a bit dull. David has a dosa, which is a huge, crispy pancake which is rolled and arrives on our table as a ½ metre long tube. We have to ask the waitress how to eat it. A different type of Indian cuisine.

A good sleep ready for the next day’s work.

Saturday, September 10, 2011

The Music of Mombasa

After our training session today, we walk down to Biashara Street and then into the Old Town of Mombasa. What a wonderful experience!

Mike coins the phrase “The Music of Mombasa” as we thread our way through narrow streets thronged with people, hard carts, lorries, posh cars, matatus, and most of all, tuk-tuks. People shout, hawkers and touts call us to buy, tuk-tuks put-put and every vehicle hoots, toots and parps. Loud, discordant music – but so exciting!

We walk across roads, taking any gap in the traffic – running when we need to, facing down tuk-tuks when we have to. And then we are into the trading area – stalls sell everything you could want – cosmetics, plastic shoes, food, spices, fabrics, bedding, toys – you name it, it is there! We get back to the kikoyi shop and buy some more amazing fabric and then Mike sets out to look for cotton pants. We can’t find the shop David bought his in, and so we ask at the Emporium where to go. They give us the name of a shop and we find it eventually, only to be diverted by a tout who drags Mike off down increasingly narrow alleyways to a shop where they want to rob him blind. Actually, by SA prices, the pants were not expensive, but by Kenyan prices they were exhorbitant! David chases the tout off and we decide to come back another day to find the first shop. The touts are a curse – trying to inveigle tourists into buying at the shops where they get kick-backs. Some stores have signs that say “No commission paid.”

While the men shop, I look down the narrow alleys, overshadowed by tall, weathered buildings with washing hanging from their balconies, and elaborate cast iron around the windows and verandahs. Newish buildings are cheek by jowl with dilapidated tenement buildings. Everywhere there are wires and cord – criss-crossing the glimpses of the sky like demented spiderwebs. After Sarah’s photos of Zanzibar, I’m attracted by the many carved wooden and decorated iron doors.

We decide to walk into the Old Town and find a map against a weathered wall, showing us where we are and where we want to go. A young woman selling samosas, stuffed fried chillies and potato wedges sits near it, and
I succumb to my weakness for street food. David eats the chillies – 5KS for a whole chillie with the stem still on, stuffed with lentils and coated in a maize batter and deep fried, while I have a delicious vegetable samosa. Mike has already bought tuna, caught in the bay, deep fried and sold in the street, and David has bought a wonderful selection of fruit for 100KS.

The streets become less crowded and quieter – and we notice after a while that they are paved – there are tourist walking-routes through it. Houses are tall and quiet, and friendly children shout “Jambo” and reach their hands out to us. High fives all round and we squeeze through a very narrow passage and there is the sea. It is incredibly blue and tantalising but when we try to get closer through the gates to the Old Port, we are asked for 100KS to go in. We walk on a bit, and enter a building being renovated. The huge iron gates are being manned by men plying dominoes, and they welcome us and are happy for us to walk down to the edge of the building. It is going to be a magnificent home or office once it has been finished, retaining the original outer walls and the huge archways, but being completely re-built inside. A little further along the road we meet the first white people we have seen, shopping in a curio shop. The Antique shop next door is closed, but a local calls the owner who opens up for us.

Then we walk back down to the edge of the sea and join some local men who are sitting on benches on the bank and drinking tea. The tea is hot, sweet and spiced – I taste ginger and chilli and a hint of cinnamon. We sit in the gathering dark and watch the sea as it enters the channel, and bemoan the hideous concrete building being erected on the opposite beach.

It is getting dark as we start the walk back to town and we pass the Mombasa Club, Fort Jesus and a Museum before hitting the main streets. On a Friday evening we see many more people in Muslim dress – mostly men and young boys, walking in chatty clusters along the road. Half way back, we give in to tiredness and hail a tuk-tuk. That is an experience! I think it must have been one of the most unroadworthy ones in Mombassa, and sways and creaks as we roar around corners. But it is exhilarating and exciting. Again, I wish Pete was there to share this with me.

We end this magical, almost surreal afternoon with a cold Tusker beer at the rooftop bar, and then early to bed. Sadly, music of a loud, modern sort spoils the night as someone, somewhere parties into the early hours of the morning. Feels like home!

Thursday, September 8, 2011

Training is a wonderful job

It is hot and steamy in Mombasa but the room crackles with electricity as we start the session. Trainers, teachers and officials from Kenya and Uganda share some of the exciting things that they have experienced with using the reading to learn methodology over the past 2 years. Someone says that for him its great strength is that it teaches children in a natural way, rather than a contrived way. Another says that the engagement of learners is amazing to see. Another says it has made teachers more committed, organised and innovative. They share challenges – huge classes as education has become free and compulsory in both countries – some classes up to 200 to one teacher; lack of support; lack of resources. But there is no negativity, no feeling that the challenges make it impossible to put the method into practice. Instead, it seems that everyone is looking for solutions.
And then David Rose starts the training. I am blown away by his depth of knowledge and ability to train without a note in front of him, and to adapt to the needs of the group. Especially as he hears during the opening session that his father has died in Australia. I feel as though my nerve endings are tingling as I understand things about the method that I have never really understood before.
The group are an interesting group – some very outspoken and challenging, some very affirming, but all thirsty for what they can learn. And there is so much good stuff going around as we revise the method in the early years, and have a lot of fun working with a story I have saved on my computer.
On the second day we start with a chance for people to share what they feel was most significant from the first day’s training, and then we get the chance to work with a text for the middle primary, looking at reading and writing for information. We work through the first and second stages, where the whole group rewrites the text in common-sense terms, and then they have to rewrite it again in groups. I am fascinated by the interplay in the groups – the passage is about the history of Uganda and as they are meant to be writing a short passage, there is hot debate about how accurate the text book (a Kenyan book) is. It takes the adults maybe 3 times as long to write as it would take children, because they debate everything – even evolution!
In the afternoon, Mike and I get a chance to teach a session and I enjoy the interaction with the smaller group, as they practise what they learnt this morning.
Back to our hotel – it is not as luxurious as the one in Nairobi, but comfortable and cool once I put the aircon on. Tomorrow afternoon I want to shop in Biashara street again and spend some time wandering aimlessly. I also want to take some photos. Sunday is free and I am sure we will get to the beach as well as watching the game between SA and Wales.
Busy, but fulfilling.

Wednesday, September 7, 2011

First Impressions of Mombasa

We leave Nairobi in the dark to catch a 6 am flight to Mombasa. As we come down through the cloud the sun is shining and the captain talks about seeing Mt Kilimanjaro, but the row I am in has no window.
We’re met by another cowboy driver who takes us into Mombasa itself. David says he feels as though he is in India – the Eastern architecture and even a cow in the road. We go straight to the Aga Khan Foundation headquarters but the planned rural school trips are cancelled as the teachers are on strike, so we have a strategy planning meeting and then the afternoon is free.

The teachers’ strike is for better conditions as well as pay and it seems that the public is behind them. The unions want to regularise contract teachers’ positions and get extra teachers into state schools – agreed to originally by the government but now the agreement has been reneged on. Atresh at the Foundation explains that politicians were, for the first time, going to have to pay taxes on their earnings, and had woken up to the fact that this would mean less money in their pockets. So they have siphoned money off from all sorts of places, including the money set aside for education, so that they will still have the same take-home pay. I’m not sure whether this was in the form of bigger salaries or how it has been worked out, but in effect, they are using tax payers money to pay their taxes. Or, as David says, they are stealing directly from the children. On TV, there are visuals of children teaching each other, while other children hang around outside their locked schools.

Atresh says several of the teachers on the project were willing to be at school so we could visit them, but he is not prepared to put them in any danger, as the situation is volatile. We plan the 7 days of the workshop in principle, before we set off back to the hotel.

Along the way, we are taken to Biashara street – a narrow, winding area of shops and stalls, selling almost anything, Rukaya takes us into an “emporium” where we are able to buy some kikoyis – I chose some for cloths for Sarah, Nic and me. If we ever lived in the same city, we could have a party with matching cloths! I feel quite vulnerable in the street as I have my big bag with me, and stay close to our driver. A man stops me and asks if I want to buy spices. He has a stall at a nearby market. I do, but we don’t have time today. He asks when I will come and persists when I say I don’t know. Eventually, our driver tells him to go away. Then we drive to the other side of the city to a shop a bit like the Warehouse in NZ to look for some china markers. (Which we don’t find). We see some very tall men and women selling basketware – woven sieves and mats and stools. I would like to buy some but don’t know where I will put it all.

Everywhere there is traffic – tuk-tuks zip in and out of the traffic, people and motor bikes spread into the path of cars, matatus (kombis) weave in and out, despite their length, people pulling handcarts carrying water in huge plastic containers, bananas, and all sorts of other wares dice with death as they try to shoulder bigger and heavier vehicles out of the way.

We pass stalls selling grains and legumes – huge 100kg bags standing side by side, with their tops open to display beans, lentils, soya, maize and other seeds I can’t identify. There are many stalls selling charcoal burners and others using the burners to cook food which is sold on the street. The smells are exotic – an olfactory experience I don’t mind experiencing – hot oil from fried samosas and other exotic looking titbits, fruit and veggies, fresh coconuts and pineapples, cut and ready to eat. I love the hardware stalls, selling pots from tiny to gigantic, ladles of all descriptions, lamps and other implements I can’t identify. There are leather shops which carry stocks of thousands – we plan to go back and have a look at what is available. Then there is the usual “stuff” sold by hawkers – t-shirts and plastic shoes and bags, cheap toys and jewellery and CDs and DVDs whose provenance I sincerely doubt.

Mombasa is very much a Muslim city with mosques and women wearing black dresses and head-dresses. Some wear kikoyis over their black dresses. We also see some people wearing kikoyis and kangas, but most people are dressed in Western dress, and many of the men are smartly dressed in black suits despite the heat.

I check with the concierge whether it is safe for me to walk alone in the area, and I set off down Haille Salassie Rd towards Aga Khan Road. People ignore me or smile and a few say “Jambo” as I go past. I walk past a temple and a mosque – it reminds me of Northdale where the two can be cheek by jowl. There is a park where people sit, relaxed, enjoying the relative cool of the evening after the work day is finished. At the end of the park are 4 gigantic “tusks” which span the road. I walk past shops of all sorts – many automotive spares shops and books shops, shops selling airtime, clothes shops and bars and food shops. I see the Scripture Union bookshop but press on back to Haille Salassie Street to find the hotel.

All around are bouganvilleas – cerise, red, orange, white – against the glossy green leaves. It is a tropical city, and the plants are tropical, too.

A visit to the gym on the top floor gives me a glimpse of the sea in the distance – but only if I stand on the tallest treadmill. Dinner on the pool deck in the cool of the evening, to the sound of the muezzuins is delicious – snapper in a coconut milk sauce with naan bread and spinach. Washed down with a Tuskers beer. It just feels right.

The whole day is a rich experience, and for a moment, I wish I were a tourist and Pete and I could wander through these streets looking, absorbing and buying. But the work starts tomorrow – 30 teachers and organisers, ready to learn how to take Reading to Learn into the next phase. If the strikes end before we leave we will be taken to see the rural schools, but we will meet and talk to teachers anyway.

As the evening cools down and the mosques fall silent, it’s time to sleep in my air-conditioned room – with windows tight shut against the noise of the unrelenting traffic.

Tuesday, September 6, 2011

Another part of Africa

We land in Nairobi in pouring rain – it is not the rainy season but it has rained for 2 days. As my suitcase arrives on the carousel and I notice the wet patch, I think – oh no, my bottles of wine have broken and leaked all over my clothes. But it is just the rain.

Our trip to the hotel is hair-raising – potholes, roadworks, rain and Nairobi traffic! Add to this our taxi driver, Mengo, who swerves, shouts, hoots and looks at me while he talks to me – and I have a recipe for instant nervous breakdown. But arriving at the hotel, the worries are soothed away by the Victorian splendour of the Sarova Stanley – opulent carpets and curtains, dark furniture, club chairs – it is wonderful.

In the morning, the work begins. We meet David Rose at breakfast – he is just off a plane from Australia and looks travel-weary, but the work has to start. He gets a 45 minute nap while Mike and I set off for the Aga Khan Foundation offices. We walk the block to the offices – the city “feels” like a foreign city – it is clean but busy. Mike warns me that there is an “informal arrangement” when it comes to crossing the roads. There is no need to wait for the lights – neither cars nor pedestrians do! So you watch out!

We are driven by another cowboy driver, Josef, to Mkuru – a large slum near Nairobi, to visit two schools where the Reading to Learn methodology is being implemented. On the way, Mike points out all the storks, which roost in the trees in the middle of the lunatic traffic. All along the light poles, we see these huge birds, perching and watching, and later, see a whole flock wheeling and flying in the sky. They are ugly birds close to, with their pink wattles and scaly legs, but in the sky, they are graceful and almost ethereal. We also spot a yellow-billed kite high up in the sky.

We enter Mkuru through blocks of apartments, unfinished but inhabited, and with a forest of TV aerials rising from each roof. As we go deeper in, the roads deteriorate, and the apartments become tenement buildings, with shops underneath and children and washing leaning through skimpy balconies. Everywhere there is litter – piled up on the sides of the roads, where it has been pushed by graders, lying in any empty piece of land, on fences, in huge piles. Joshua, who travels with us, says that visiting these areas is certainly an “olfactory experience.”

The schools we go to see are private schools, and are run either by NGOs and churches, or as businesses. The first one, Kids of Hope, is down a smelly, wet alley way and is made entirely of corrugated iron – old corrugated iron, full of holes and with “frilly” edges where the iron has rusted and buckled. It is the first day of school and not all children have returned, and in the Gr 2 class we visit, there are normally twice the number of children in a tiny space. Their teacher, Betsy, goes through a story about going on holiday, and the level of understanding and the level of English astounds me. The children are dressed in red pants or skirts – huge, voluminous skirts and long, baggy shorts, made out of what looks like fasco. They all wear gumboots – and considering the terminal state of the muddy, litter embedded state of the roads, it is a wise choice.

I chat to Elizabeth, who is a facilitator for the project, training and supporting teachers in R2L, and David, who works with the schools in the slums. They tell me that most of these schools do not have qualified teachers, as the salaries are very low – about 5000 to 6000 KS a month. When I change $100 into KS, I receive 9000KS – so salaries are very low. Some of the teachers are recent graduates who are unable to get jobs in state schools, so serve out some time in these schools. Others are community members. Children pay between 250 and 400KS a month. Parents who are employed are mostly casual labourers or factory workers, and earn about 200KS a day. They also pay for uniforms and exercise books for their children.

The children are delightful – all known by English names and I can’t get them to tell me their real names. When I video them, they all rush to see what I am doing – and then want to see themselves on the monitor.
As we leave the school, Mike steps across onto the other side of a ditch and up to his ankles into fetid water and waste. The smell is still with him.

We leave for Gramo Joy school, and drive along the main “shopping street” – a 3 km congested, muddy track lined with wood and iron shacks, selling everything from charcoal to couture clothes, and everything else in between. There are even hotels, clinics and laboratories amongst the mud and congestion. I try to take photos, but Josef is hooting, swerving, swearing at motorcyclists and driving into huge craters, so my photos are not really clear.

The school is bigger and is managed by a husband and wife team – she teaches and he manages. He is an ex-Telecom worker, and when he was laid off, he and his wife started the school. He shows us how they have moved up into the top 10% rating of Nairobi schools in the past 3 years. I observe some Gr 1s who can speak an amazing amount of English, but are dead keen to have their photos taken instead of co-operating with the teacher.
What we see is very impressive – the teachers have learnt the steps well, but David is able to suggest ways that they can improve on the spelling and writing stages.

We say goodbye to Mkuru Kwanjenga and hit the traffic jam back into town. At the office we are given more background. Schooling has just been made compulsory, but it has not yet been enforced, and state schools are not fulfilling the needs of the population. This is why there are so many private schools. They are also bound by a curriculum that is exceptionally prescriptive and which makes it very difficult for teachers to work creatively. The Foundation is looking at getting some of the teachers to write stories which incorporate some of the spelling words, and to use them as resource books.

I am blown away by what I see – I have just come from schools that are poor and under-resourced but this is beyond anything I have seen anywhere in South Africa. A mud hut in a rural area with clean air and space to play must be better than what I saw today. And yet, the teachers were positive and innovative. Wonderful.

Off to Mombasa at 4.30 tomorrow morning, to visit some rural schools (if the teachers aren’t on strike.) A different experience.

Monday, August 29, 2011

East, West, Home's best!

The house looks like a tip - it was tidy when we arrived on Saturday (Sarah says we brought Sihle up way too well!!) but as we unpack, all the bits and pieces of a month away start to take over the space.

The text books which I borrowed and which have not yet been returned; the Journals that Jane had us all keeping; the inevitable cables and chargers and cords from all the different bits of technology we took along with us - pete's 2 way radios, the video camera, the data projector, the computers, the cell phones, the Kindle - they all look like black spaghetti spilled over the dining room table.
Then there are the pebbles and shells and sponges we brought home; the wooden fish we stopped outside Port St John's to buy; the baskets; the gifts - a wonderful pottery vase, a shell necklace and a tree book we were given; a cap each for Kev and Sihle and other gifts in brown bags from the Umngazi shop; shoes full of mud and sand; hats and caps; suntan lotion; and all over the bathroom, a month's worth of dirty clothes.

So we have made sure everyone knows we are home. And we are glad to be here, stamping our presence on our space, re-entering the spaces that are precious to us.

Anne is here visiting form Germany, and Nolwazi has been staying with them. Sihle has kept the homefires burning and we have no worries as we return. Lindt jumped, leapt and groveled in delight when she saw us - apparently she didn't bring sticks inside, chew up branches all over the carpet or run off with anyone's shoes while we were away, but she did all three within half an hour of our returning home. Belly came halfway down the stairs to greet me and purred delightedly when I picked her up, but jingle ignored me for a couple of hours - although now he is next to me every minute of the day.

it's time to settle again for a short while, to reclaim our real lives and start to be ourselves for a bit. it won't last long - i am off to kenya on Sunday for a reading to learn workshop and Pete is going to look after Kev while Sarah and Riaan go to italy - but for the moment, we are back.

East, West, Home's best!

Sunday, August 28, 2011

And the Journey ends ….

The last three days of our adventure are busier than anything we’ve had before. Apart from trying to fit in final crit lessons, we also attend farewells at all three schools and say “goodbye” to all the new friends we have made.




We call in at Vukandlule to watch Mdu’s Maths lesson. The Grade Rs don’t seem to have a teacher, and keep running past and going “baa-aa-aa” through the open window. Then later in the morning, Callie and I have the chance we’ve been waiting for. I open the staffroom door to go out, and there are two brown kids sitting on the steps (goats, not children;-)). We rush out to try and touch them, and they run past us, into the Principal’s office and under his desk. He’s having a meeting, and carries on while Pete, Callie and I chase them out – and get the chance to hold them. Then they go in and attend Mdu’s Gr 7 Maths lesson – educated goats! The same day, there are donkeys popping their heads into the newly painted igloo loos, and 4 dogs having a rough and tumble amongst the children at Assembly. I can see why Mr Nofonte wants to put up a gate to keep the animals out.
This makes us laugh about the sight we saw the day before at Sicambeni. A donkey goes into the house across the road and the lady has to chase it out with a broom. Then it goes and rubs itself against the door jamb of a deserted house next door – first one shoulder and then the other.


On Wednesday, Sicambeni holds a Thanksgiving Day – part of it is to thank the students and part is to thank the community for their support. There is a howling gale and the tent we are meant to sit under can’t be pitched and rips as it is lifted. We sit near the top buildings to watch a wonderful celebration of what the children do – an amazing role play on career choices and how they could benefit the community, traditional dancing, modern dancing, the choir, speeches – everything we enjoy. Then the ballroom dancing starts – 5 serious couples dancing to an old fashioned waltz, stepping carefully on the uneven concrete, against a panorama of sea, sky and coastal forest. Incongruous and yet quite sincere and natural. We are all given gifts and certificates, the students say their goodbyes with aplomb and sincerity, and then the children play indigenous games while we have lunch, carefully prepared by the staff. And then the party starts – our students are whipped off to a great party at Port St Johns, and arrive home in the wee, small hours, having had a big party.



On Thursday, Vukandlule says goodbye. Mr Nofonte thanks “Debbie and the old man” for all we have done. This is another of Pete’s new names – Mr Shumane thought he was “the driver and bodyguard.” We are entertained by the choir, the Gr R teacher who sings most beautifully, the Principal and HOD give encouraging speeches, children dance and we love the “skatamiya” dancing to the music from a cell phone – another of the incongruities that just seem to fit. The highlight for me is a speech from Yolanda, a Gr 9 learner who has so much potential. She thanks the students and challenges the teachers to keep up what they have started. We hand over some agapanthus which we’ve bought as a gift to their garden. We have also given the children a skipping rope to replace the vines – Lerato recommends that we don’t give it to the adults – it will be too useful to be used as a toy – but to give it directly to the kids.
At Cwebeni, we share a farewell with the staff – Thelma, Mzamo and Mbuso have asked us to get a cake for them to share, and we are so encouraged to hear what the staff has to say about our students. They have definitely made an impact – and we look forward to seeing if the impact is lasting.
We choose a place to plant a strelitzia which we bought at the local indigenous nursery – they want it near the staffroom so they can enjoy looking at the flowers.

Friday, we do a final drive around to deliver cakes to Sicambeni and Vukandlule. At Cwebeni, Thelma and Mbuso have accompanied learners to a sports day at Mthatha. The learners and staff are so sad to say goodbye, and gifts are exchanged, phone numbers shared, teaching aids that the students have made and brought handed over, and promises to keep in touch made.

In the evening, we have a dinner in the wine cellar restaurant at Umngazi to say goodbye – a really special evening where we have the chance to say how much we have meant to each other and how much we have learnt. Gifts and cards are exchanged, and Pete and I are spoilt by all these special people who have become part of our family. We are asked to adopt some of them – and we’re really tempted. We have bought small wooden fish and give them to each of the students with a little card saying what sort of fish they remind us of. Pete says they are our special “aquarium.”

And then it’s time to say goodbye to Umngazi and the special people who have made this whole trip possible. We have been so blessed and we don’t have words to say thank you to Michelle and her team.
The weather is grey and drizzly and that’s the only way I can bear to say goodbye – on a beautiful day, I think I might have jumped out of the car and hidden.

A journey, an adventure, a month to remember.

Tuesday, August 23, 2011

A Busy Day

What a busy day! We visit all 3 schools today – a crit lesson for Nobantu at Sicambeni and a crit lesson for Lerato at Vukandlule before we go on to Cwebeni to do a lesson for the teachers on using Youtube, Slideshare and Google Images before bringing some children back to Umngazi for a sports day.

On our way to school, we round a corner to find a flock of goats in the middle of the road and the three Vukandlule students in the middle of them. Callie and I have both been dying to touch a baby goat – they look so cuddly and soft. And there she is, touching a beautiful caramel and white one. We arrive at Sicambeni in time for prayers and the marching song before I go to observe Nobantu’s lesson.

Then off to Vukandlule for Lerato’s drama lesson. Her Grade 7s are performing a traditional ritual and their clapping echoes against the building as they escort a boy dressed like an initiate from his initiation rite back to his home. As the bell rings and children trickle out onto the playground, the echo of the clapping is drowned by the real clapping of a live audience. The task suddenly moves out of the realm of “assessment” and becomes true performance. I wish I had my video camera with me.

A quick computer lesson at Cwebeni and then we pack 14 Grade 6s into the bakkie and set off for the Umngazi Mini Olympics. Each of the schools has sent 10 or so learners and there are about 20 guests from Umngazi to share in the games. The highlight for many of the children is crossing the river in the boat. This is great fun, and the Cwebeni children are especially happy as they know their teachers do it daily. The Vukandlule children are smartly kitted out – girls with green netball bibs and boys with smart navy shirts with an Imana Wild Ride logo. We weren’t sure that they would be able to come and are thrilled to see them with Mr Diyane.

Each team is managed by their students and the Umngazi team is managed by Michelle and Graham’s daughter, Kinvaren. Steve, Nelson and Aubrey get the games in motion. Human hurdles, soccer where all 5 players have to hold on to each other, long jump, 3 legged and sack races and relays keep us occupied for an hour. The school kids sit silently during the instructions, but become very excited during the games. But no one gets more excited than Mdu who shouts and dances when his team wins. A highlight is Graham, participating in the sack race in a sack that reaches just above his knees. What a good sport!



At the end, each team has to sing or cheer and Thelma joins in with the Cwebeni team, dancing when her name is called out. Mbuso and Mzamo cause a riot with their dancing. Thabo leads the Sicambeni group in a lively dance, while Lerato is in charge of the Vukandlule group. The two men’s voices contrast with the high voices of the girls, and the music rings out across the beach. A high kicker in the Sicambeni group inspires one of the Umngazi boys and he gives a Michael Jackson moonwalk performance as his group sings.


The afternoon ends with refreshments and trips home before it gets dark. It’s a lovely mix of kids all enjoying themselves together, and the Bungalows bringing the 3 schools together in one place. A delightful afternoon. I hope it is the first of many.